My OTL Non-negotiables

I was planning to make a list of all my goals - all the things that I want to achieve before the year ends, but my mind seems to shift to something different. I recently got this idea from KFAM forum about OTL** Non-negotiables - all the qualities that you are looking for in a partner and from the description itself, it's something that is not negotiable...

Well, I never thought of that before. Blinded by those love sick, sweet as candy movies seen on theaters and shown on TV, I developed a false perception of falling in love. Even if I had faith in God, little did I know I could fall in a trap that easily and it was not good at all. I didn't realize that there were also things that I am willing to give up just to keep it going. My self-worth was even tarnished, I couldn't show my face to the world.

I keep on thinking about it - how I was deeply hurt because I was not careful...
I didn't think and seek what God has to say about it. Of course I was not expecting Him to speak to me directly but there are a lot of times that I just listen to the cries of my heart rather than God's wisdom. I made a very big mistake and this time, I want to make sure that I would never ever make the same mistake again.

Others would think that I'm too "pihikan" or "choosy" but that's the only way to go. It's God's way or the high way. I realized that picking this path would not lead me to hurts and disappointments in the end, it will lead me to eternal peace and happiness! I've already made a major detour in my destiny so why don't I make it fruitful this time?

To start off, let me share to you my list of NON-NEGOTIABLES:

1. God fearing
2. polite to people older than him
3. does not swear/say bad words as an 'expression'
4. has a word of honor
5. good conversationalist but does not talk about nonsense/bad stuff about other people
6. has a good sense of humor
7. knows how to handle his finances/ has good money management skills
8. he should be fond of kids/little children
9. responsible
10. confident

I trust in God that He will lead me to a person with those qualities, and He will give me the person that I love as well. I know it's hard to find a guy who's all that but this time, I will let God lead the way and not just rely on false signs that are too childish and foolish.

And yeah, even if I reach the age of 40 and I haven't seen a guy like that I won't mind at all. I know there are already a lot of people around me who keeps on asking me and I got to admit they are adding up to the *pressure* that I'm feeling. I've gotten that feeling before and I hope I won't end up being desperate again.

Right now, all I have to do is get away from all the nasty heartaches that I keep on having because I know that I deserve a fun and worry-free life.


**One True Love - Based on the book of Brother Bo Sanchez, How To Find Your One True Love